business Archives - RADICAL EVOLUTION

business

Spirituality
What is the self?
- February 1, 2021
- Comments Off on What is the self?
- by Stacey Steinmiller
My therapy business was/is named “Authentic Self Counseling” which I have grown out of. Not that my thinking on this was all wrong, but my concept of self has changed drastically over the past decade. I still find it important that we learn about our likes and dislikes and why we like some things and dislike others. Understanding what has been conditioned and habitualized. What the collective has influenced of us. Our culture and upbringing. There is so much to sort through that it is hard and confusing to learn about our authentic self. It’s important to put these concepts to the test and keep an open mind about ourselves as we are never fixed and always changing.
The Spiritual
If you have gone down the spiritual road, you likely know that there is no self. We are a void, nothingness, everything. We cannot find the seer for he does not exist. There is no me in my head but rather every time that I come to this space I drop into experience itself. This is an important concept not just to know, but to experience.
Meditation
Meditation is the path to having a direct experience with the lack of self. Our mind is always pointing to a self inside our heads. We are always talking to ourself all day. But upon careful examination, nothing is there. If we identify the self who is looking at that self we have just identified? Oh, so we are the witness. Well who witnessed the witness? This game goes on for infinity. Yet we often play it daily which is kind of amusing to me.
Then who the fuck am I?
If you’re relatively new to this it could send you down an existential crisis. Or you likely just don’t give a fuck. Often we fall into one of these two categories. There is however, a 3rd category that arises. Freedom.
Freedom
If we are nothing, that means we are also everything. It means that we are the space of creation. The birth of the universe of a star of a nation of ourselves. It gives rise to freedom and empowerment. It is a gift that we have been given that we learn to work with and be in right relationship with. It literally opens up a new world that many call a spiritual awakening.
Thoughts
The way we perceive
- February 1, 2021
- Comments Off on The way we perceive
- by Stacey Steinmiller
The way we perceive happens in an instant. Messages are sent to our brains quicker than we realize what is happening. We are constantly taking in information from all of our senses and our brain is constantly interpreting what is happening without our consent. This is all automatic because we don’t have the conscious attention to keep our bodies functioning at any given second. This is great for survival and for efficiency. However it makes it extremely hard to change our reactions when they are happening instantaneously.
So much of what stands in the way of our dreams is our perception and the way we think. You’ve probably have read (and personally experienced if you have any level of awareness) that we have tens of thousands of thoughts a day. Consciously changing all of these thoughts and getting to the bottom of it all is a bit overwhelming and may have not received the results you were hoping for. Often times, when I first learned about this years ago, I felt like something was missing – the emotions. It seemed weird to change my thought about something, when zero cells in my body agreed with what I was saying. I didn’t FEEL it to be true. yes yes yes. feelings aren’t facts, but this makes this task of thought changes even harder to keep up with because we don’t have the emotional buy in. So I realized – we need some emotional buy in here to make this successful.
When are emotions are not in step with our thinking we experience a lot of resistance and this time up a lot of energy. As a result it is easier to give up on your endeavor and choose the path of least resistance. Not because we are weak or that there is something inherently wrong with us, but because that’s how our brains function for our survival.
In order to create lasting change, we need to get our feelings and thought in line – and in line the way we want to. not the inline as in “I feel like shit and am shit” but the in line that we want – “I am great and feel great.”
If you’re struggling with getting your emotions and thoughts in step, in the way that you want them, check out my coaching packages that I offer to help support you on this journey to a more aligned, and happier you.
self-care
Real self care
- January 31, 2021
- Comments Off on Real self care
- by Stacey Steinmiller
Self-care has been all the rage for the past decade or so. And the problem when things become a rage, is they become commercialized and bastardized. But just like old saying stick for a reason – self care is here to stay because it is highly important.
Real Self-Care
So back to the heart of the matter…. real self-care. It isn’t glamorous like the spa, or a monthly self-care subscription box. Not saying those things are bad but they’re not REAL self-care. Real self-care involved moving your body a health amount daily. That might look like walking or running or a team sport or going to the gym or dancing around your house. I don’t care what exactly it looks like but when you truly care for your body you move it. Every. Damn. Day. Did I say you have to run 10 miles a day? no I did not. But you MUST move.
Authentic Self-Care
Not only does self-care need to be REAL (see above). It also needs to be authentic. What does that mean? Like I said. Self care involves moving your body. The HOW to move you body requires a bit more knowledge of your likes and dislikes and preferences and comforts and challenges. I’m a fan of always beginning with the easiest/most desirable method. If you LIKE being outside and therefore have motivation to go outside, I would highly recommend an outside activity for movement. If you like to listen to music and dance around, then I highly suggest that as your method. As I mentioned before I don’t care HOW you do the self-care, but it does need to be aligned with YOU. Starting out with something very unlike you (unlike your current identity of yourself at least) is way harder. Not saying it can’t be done, but I like to take routes that are more likely to lead to success. So start with the most desirable activity and then once you’re in the habit of moving your body every day, then you can up your game a bit and start to move out of your comfort zone. This way you’re only tacking one hard thing at a time.